Behavioral scientists found that the people who become less likeable with age but more respected are operating on a principle most people understand intellectually but can’t execute emotionally — that respect and likeability are often inversely correlated after 60, because likeability requires you to shrink and respect requires you to hold your shape, and most people spent their first six decades shrinking and their last two deciding that holding their shape matters more than fitting into someone else’s frame
Last week at the grocery store, I watched a woman around my age tell the cashier that she’d been overcharged ...

















